A friend mentioned the other day that cheating wasn't a marriage ended for her. She simply said she told her husband if he felt it necessary, he should expect her to reciprocate.
I'm not sure that's the healthiest view, but I guess when entering a marriage with vows, you do promise for better or worse.
I'm just not sure how I feel, or could deal with cheating.
I have only ever been intimate with my husband. And I think we are matched body and soul. I don't think I would want to be with anyone else just because he cheated first.
I also don't know that I could ever get past that kind of indiscretion.
And I mean, either type of cheating: an emotional relationship like Brad and Angelina supposedly developed, or a physical one. I'm not sure which I feel is worse.
What do you think? Have you ever dealt with this? How?
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2 comments:
cheating is a absolute deal breaker with me. i know this, because i've only been intimate with one guy other than my husband- and he cheated on me. i was planning to marry that guy... we tried to work it out, but in my heart i could never move on. i was suspicious of everything he did, everyone he talked to, and i just never looked at him the same. i think part of the reason i tried so hard to work it out was because i was afraid to move on... i had never known anybody else, and the idea of having to start over with someone new frightened me. obviously, i eventually found the strength to leave, and won't try to "work it out" again. cheating is an absolute deal breaker.
In a marriage, no cheating is not a deal breaker for me. I don't believe in divorce I think once you are married you are married, for better or worse(unless their is abuse, that IS a deal breaker to me). Would I be heartbroken? Yes. Could I work through with a lot of couples counseling? I think so. I have never been cheated on so I can only imagine the kind of pain it brings.
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